01 Aug Outside My Comfort Zone
A friend shared this quote with me: “It is paradoxical but true that something that takes you out of yourself also restores you to yourself with a greater freedom.” – This quote comes from Frances May in her book titled, Every Day in Tuscany.
I SO stepped out of my comfort zone by doing my trip to New York. Not only did I step into neighborhoods where my safety was questionable, but I also opened my life up to public inspection and criticism with my blog posts. Those who know me personally know how fiercely private I am – that was a tough one for me.
I’m a lazy person when it comes to exercise. I hate gyms, classes, and regimens. When I set my goal to walk every square mile of New York, one of my closest friends just chuckled. “YOU walk? Right!” But I went public with this very uncomfortable goal, knowing I’d have to follow through if people were watching.
Stepping outside what’s familiar and safe opened up a brand new world for me. I struck up conversations with people I would have never met had I not been lonely. I sheepishly walked into classes of 20- and 30-somethings but walked out armed with a whole new set of skills. And the more I pushed myself to walk, the more I realized that my creative juices flowed more freely.
But to be honest, the most uncomfortable move is coming in less than sixty days. I will sell the home where I had my three babies, where we celebrated Christmas for 24 years, where I’m surrounded by neighbors I can call at any time. I am leaving a great big comfort zone behind, not sure where I am headed next.
In preparing for my move, I’ve allowed a few exciting thoughts to seep in. Maybe I’ll get to build the home I have in my head. Maybe I’ll be financially freer and can travel more often. Maybe I can shed some of the baggage and responsibilities I’ve accumulated the decades I’ve been here.
Yep, comfort zones are warm and safe. But I’ve come to realize that they can also choke the life out of you . . . a life that might – just might – restore “you to yourself with a greater freedom.”
Keep your fingers crossed.